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I think that's why I haven't done well in traditional therapy either -- it sounds too much like est, and I don't trust it. I have had success with body-centered psychotherapy (or Hakomi), which focuses on physical sensation and the emotions and memories those sensations elicit. That way, the information comes from *me* and not from a third party who, no matter how hard they try, sounds to me like an est trainer or seminar leader.
Even being in therapy is tricky for us, I think, because it reinforces that there is fundamentally something "wrong" with us, just like we were told there was when we were kids. I don't want my life to "work," I want my life to be joyful. I don't want to "handle" my problems, I want to resolve them. I wish I could erase everything est implanted in my psyche.
I'd recommend a deprogrammer who escaped the same group you were in. In est's case, it might be someone like Carol Giambalvo, who has been up front and center in her criticism of the cult. Here's a link and you should read her essay, "The Hunger Project Inside Out," which I posted to alt.fan.landmark after she was threatened by AOL.
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