If this weren’t my life I’d be laughing my butt off. Now if you have been following my story with the ex-husband and his “challenges” with PSI add this to the mix. He leaves me after his return from PSI7, marries another PSI Graduate, who turns around and takes him for all he has in a very short period of time. She leaves him which causes him to have a nervous breakdown. He spends two weeks in the hospital and is discharged.

Now comes the ironic part. He decides he needs a new relationship. He joins a dating service and starts emailing another woman. They meet and he finds out she just finished the Leadership Program for guess what? PSI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She tells him that she left her husband after her return from PSI7 and has to resort to a dating service to meet people. She complained to him that her relationships don’t last long.

Wonder why that is?

Mindless DRONES. This email says it all.

Sent: Wednesday, June 11, 2008 11:57 AM
Subject: [PSI7_TEAM438] Hello Team 438!

I just paid a visit to High Valley Ranch for WLS, and its looking
beautiful. There have been some improvements since PSI 7. How is
everyone doing? If anyone hasn't done LS I suggest you do so. It was
so great and awesome. I realized that since I did not keep PSI in my
life these past two years I fell back into some my bullshit. I highly
suggest that if you can't go to LS then at least audit or staff the
basic.

I actually didn't want to go, but I had to or else my money wouldn't
be good anymore for it. I was very resistant, scared and hated
getting ready for it. I knew that I needed it because I hit a
crossroad in my life and wasn't feeling very happy at all. I had some
issues before LS and although I didn't think much about those
specific problems during LS, I came back and all of a sudden those
problems aren't there anymore. I suspect that I tackled the
underlying root of some of my problems at LS and didn't even know it.

What I got from WLS is I feel empowered, confident and I embraced my
feminity. I highly recommend it for the women. And for the men I
don't know what you guys do in MLS but I'm pretty sure it's just as
good too.

I miss you all and I hope everyone is doing well. Any Denver people
want to hang out? Let me know!

Quote
Steve989
Mindless DRONES. This email says it all.

Sent: Wednesday, June 11, 2008 11:57 AM
Subject: [PSI7_TEAM438] Hello Team 438!

I just paid a visit to High Valley Ranch for WLS, and its looking
beautiful. There have been some improvements since PSI 7. How is
everyone doing? If anyone hasn't done LS I suggest you do so. It was
so great and awesome. I realized that since I did not keep PSI in my
life these past two years I fell back into some my bullshit. I highly
suggest that if you can't go to LS then at least audit or staff the
basic.

I actually didn't want to go, but I had to or else my money wouldn't
be good anymore for it. I was very resistant, scared and hated
getting ready for it. I knew that I needed it because I hit a
crossroad in my life and wasn't feeling very happy at all. I had some
issues before LS and although I didn't think much about those
specific problems during LS, I came back and all of a sudden those
problems aren't there anymore. I suspect that I tackled the
underlying root of some of my problems at LS and didn't even know it.

What I got from WLS is I feel empowered, confident and I embraced my
feminity. I highly recommend it for the women. And for the men I
don't know what you guys do in MLS but I'm pretty sure it's just as
good too.

I miss you all and I hope everyone is doing well. Any Denver people
want to hang out? Let me know!

God, this woman sounds like me when I was going through this. Anyone reading this, PLEASE STAY AWAY FROM PSI SEMINARS

Mary, I spent the better part of the night reading your post and was very moved by what I had read. My husband and I divorced after several years and thousands of dollars because of his involvement with PSI. My ex still does not see this for what it is. Now I live in a small apartment, living from day to day with barely enough money to pay the bills from a job I could lose any day now. Because of my age I can't afford medical insurance.

Now can you love someone so much they fill you with LIFE only to have them end up breaking your heart and mind with all this. I guess the PSI zombie would tell me that I am playing THE VICTIM.

Quote
Mary K
If this weren’t my life I’d be laughing my butt off. Now if you have been following my story with the ex-husband and his “challenges” with PSI add this to the mix. He leaves me after his return from PSI7, marries another PSI Graduate, who turns around and takes him for all he has in a very short period of time. She leaves him which causes him to have a nervous breakdown. He spends two weeks in the hospital and is discharged.

Now comes the ironic part. He decides he needs a new relationship. He joins a dating service and starts emailing another woman. They meet and he finds out she just finished the Leadership Program for guess what? PSI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! She tells him that she left her husband after her return from PSI7 and has to resort to a dating service to meet people. She complained to him that her relationships don’t last long.

Wonder why that is?

Actually This is very similar to what my ex-husband is doing now. Our daughter came home the other night and told me that her father is dating women he's meeting on an internet dating service and his relationships are not last long either.

Talk about MINDLESS DRONES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Hi Everyone-
I first want to start by saying Thank you to Mxxxxxx and Cxxxxx for
coming over last night. It was great to catch up. We really had a
nice time.
However, out of the ten people that rsvp'd to come over only 2
showed up. Now a couple of months ago that would have really hurt my
feelings. I would have made up a story about it that so and so didn't
like me or whatever. Mxxx Axxxx taught me different. What is
absolutely shocking is that only a couple of people even bothered to
call and tell me. Jxxxx Jxxxx said she might not be able to come
and never called back to tell me she wasn't and Kxxxx Mxxx called
right at the time the party was supposed to start. Lxxxx Axxxx told
me she was definitely coming and that she would be bringing a fruit
salad. So good I didn't need it or wasn't depending on it! Lxxxxxxx
said she was coming to Lxxxx but she too never bothered to call and
let me know that she wasn't going to be able to come. Sxxxx Hxxxxx
spoke with me and got directions the day before or so, confirmed with
Mxxxx that day and then never bothered to come. Lxx Pxxxx said she
was going to come and she too never called me back. Kxxxx Cxxxx – I
am totally amazed at you. I chose this date mainly because of your
schedule. I called you twice to confirm. You said it was good and
then you never even bothered to call and tell me you weren't coming. WOW!
Not that good. It is rude and inconsiderate to treat people this
way and I am wondering how this is showing up in your lives?
I planned and bought food for ten people…and no one even worried
about just letting me know that they weren't coming, another day would
be better or that it just wasn't of interest. Many other options were
possible.
The only way you know you love yourself, or anyone else, is by the
contracts (ie. Commitments) you are willing to make and keep!
I am writing this email to be honest and tell you that your actions
affect people. What you say your going to do and what you do about it
– matter. The energy you are putting out about yourself is FLAKEY.
Sorry to start the day with such a negative email. I hope it is
taken positively so that you can shift in your life and take your WORD
more seriously.
Kxxxxxx

www.ranchsisters.com


Txxxx wrote:
I didn't see her writing that as revenge...merely a share when each
one of us writes stuff on the yahoo groups as to what is going on in
our lives I can bet you there is somebody else out there dealing with
the same issue for we are all connected! That is why I don't hold back
what I share or find out about myself I mean I've been in my shit for
the past couple days and see what has come of it... I created the
t-shirt presale and started the Dixieland yahoo group to build the
mastermind! Just a few more steps towards what I want... and in
sharing those things with all of you I hope that all of you can apply
it to your lives as well! Who knows what can happen by just saying
this is how I feel! And this is what I created because of it!
Everything is exactly perfect just as it is! And in my position it is
hard to say and believe sometimes... but really it is just that...
Perfect!
Love
TXXXX
xoxoxo

Hi Kxxxxxxx and the rest of you WLS ladies!
I read this when it came through from Kxxxx....I am not sure what to
feel about it. I do want to give input as I know it is helpful to ME
to give and receive other perspectives. It is the reason I wanted to
have this group more than anything. When I get called on my STUFF, it
helps me with other relationships in my life. Kxxxx having the
courage to do that...is highly valued by me. Support doesn't always
come wrapped in a neat little package and MAKE me feel good. (I
know...I have to make myself feel good).

Accountability is crucial to support each other with our word and
deed. I am not sure it is as powerful sending an email as it would be
to pick up the phone and say...hey, we missed you, is everything okay?
I do think in this group that is used to sharing our stuff...it could
be a way to support and hold accountable the behaviors of sisters that
are connected more deeply because of our experiences on the ranch.

It is sort of like the story where the business man is on the bus
reading his Wall Street Journal and the man with kids gets on the bus
and starts disrupting the business man. The kids are throwing a ball
and yelling and running all over the bus. The business man gets quite
annoyed at the man because he just sits there like a bump on a log and
the kids are tearing the bus apart.

Finally the business man is so upset he taps the guy on his shoulder
and says..."Buddy, can you do something with your kids?"

The man turns to him and says, "I know I should. We just left the
hospital and they all saw their momma, for the last time. She has been
quite ill for a long time. I went in last and as I sat with her she
took her last breaths. I haven't told them yet and I am not sure how.
I simply don't have the energy to take away their fun at this moment."
The business man had a new and different perspective. He went from
annoyance to compassion. Just like that!

Kxxxxxx certainly has a good point about keeping your word. I don't
see it as a judgment; I DO see it as accountability to do what was
agreed to.

What I haven't seen is anyone step up and acknowledge that they indeed
gave their word and then didn't live up to what THEY said they would do.

I don't think I would have sent a public email, although I pass no
judgment on that either. I admit I haven't read through all of the
posts so perhaps some of the ladies did respond and acknowledge the
fact that they did not keep their word. I did see that Sxxxx
unsubscribed. It may or may not be related. I hope NOT as running away
from a conflict or confrontation may not serve her in the long run in
other areas of her life. Again, this is not a judgment, simply another
perspective that maybe wasn't considered. And like Kxxxxx said, what
better place to mess up than with your sisters?

How did this situation support me?

I have a challenge with over committing my time. Sometimes I commit to
things I don't really want to do and then they are not real high on my
priority list and my results soon expose that fact. So thank you for
the reminder that this could very well be me that didn't prioritize
and then simply forgot. It helped me Kxxxxxx, that you shared to the
group. Thank you.

My challenge to you Kxxxxxx, would be to call each and every woman
that committed and talk it out with them. You might not feel it is
your place, it doesn't matter if you feel it is your place or not. It
is your choice, of course. You can do it...or NOT. I have been
practicing giving people the opportunity to share their perspective
with me...without judgment to see if I can see where they are coming
from....I don't have to agree or disagree. I can choose to befriend
them or not, depending on what I am okay with in my life.

My challenge to the ladies that didn't show and didn't keep their word
would be to call Kxxxxxx before she calls you. Don't offer excuses...I
am sure things came up. Simply evaluate your word and how strong it
is...and use this as a benchmark for other areas in your life that may
or may not be working.

As for hurt feelings. We have all learned that we are in the driver’s
seat of our feelings based on how we process the situation. No one can
hurt our feelings without our permission. Remember from your
leadership cards out of Path to Liberty...one of the qualities of a
leader is self-control and control over emotions. I think taking a
stand as to what expectations are is the noble thing to do and holding
people accountable. This is what Kxxxxxxx did and I am proud of her for
that.

Does this make sense to anyone? Am I communicating clearly? Any other
perspectives?

Warm Regards,
Mxxxxx SXXXXXX

My Kxxxxxx,
Really? Your feelings weren't hurt by this? Wow. I hope that's
true. I know that for me, had I had that experience, my feelings
would've been hurt. So my thoughts were similar to Txxxxx's, in that I
projected what I thought I'd feel in that situation. Reading between
the lines of your email, I saw hurt and anger and...(Resentment which
turns into) revenge in putting people's names out there. I guess it's
a BTLTXT moment for me, as I know I am putting words in your mouth to
say you were angry/hurt and taking revenge via your email.
Ok, so I definitely reacted to your email. Part of me totally gets
the making others accountable for their actions (or inaction) part.
However, is it my/your job to make them anything? By emailing all of
us, and not individuals? By telling the whole story to the group? I
guess that's were the revenge part comes into my interpretation. Why
does the whole group need to hear all of this? Why is it any of our
business? I know, from personal experience (as at times I give my
word and don't keep it) that just because we do this work, it doesn't
mean we always keep our word. No one does. What is different about us
hopefully is that we notice when we don't keep our word, and hopefully
work on being more accountable.
I guess I take issue with labeling people ("FLAKEY...rude &
inconsiderate" for example) and making up stories about them. I don't
know what happened to/with those eight women. I hope all of them are
fine and that something wonderful kept them from attending, rather
than something disastrous. I don't know, and my point is, neither do
you.
You put a ton of work and effort and love into making the evening
happen, and I was thinking of you ladies last night as I went about my
life, wishing I had the liberty to fly in for the party. I envisioned
a bunch of LS grads getting together, lounging by the pool and getting
to know each other in a fun/unstructured/casual way. That's the story
I made up about last night! It's always disappointing when things
don't go according to plan, yet it's also a huge learning experience.
What have you learned, My Kxxxxxx?
Your point is well taken, in that we impact those around us. All
the time, every action we take, every decision we make no matter how
small. It is up to us as to what kind of impact we choose to have.
Your email had its own impact, didn't it?
By the way Txxx, one thing you wrote totally struck a chord in me,
that if I don't show up, no one will miss me as I am not all that
important. Wow. I totally rationalize things with that thought process.
So my sisters, as usual, this has given me much to think about, and
much to examine in my own life. When I don't show up for something,
who is impacted, and how? Similarly, when I organize something, and
there is not the turnout or result I expected, what is my part in
that? How did I help create the result I did get? What can I learn
from all this?
I love you, My Kxxxxxx! I'm glad the 3 of you had a great time last
night! For the ladies who didn't attend, I hope all is well and I
know they, as well as I, missed a great opportunity in Fallbrook!
Maybe next time there's a get-together in an exotic locale (Fallbrook
sounds pretty exotic as compared to Boulder, Colorado right now) I
will create the liberty to be there!!!
Love,
Sxxxx---

Kxxxxx Sxxx wrote:
Txxxxxx-
I mean what I said….I don't have my feelings hurt. There is a
difference between taking it personally and feeling resentful that I
put a lot of time and energy getting ready for this evening. We had a
great time and I am not one bit unhappy that I did it…I only called
names to show accountability for each person. We all have the power
to affect each other…and our actions speak much louder than words. I
just wanted to call it as it was.
So – not that scary. Pain is way tooooooooo huge of a word to use
for this.
I appreciate your time and thought to write to me. However,
sometimes we can read way too much into things….and I think that might
have happened here.
Kxxxxx

On Behalf Of Txxxx CXXXXX:
Dear sweet Kxxxxx-
This is a scary one to respond to.
It sounds like you actually are Very hurt, Kxxxxx. And your
feelings Are important. Too important to not express. Sometimes I find
that when I fire back at other people it gives me a new focus to
deflect how hurt I really am. If I strike back and hurt the offender,
the bringer of my pain, I place my pain back on them. But it also
keeps me from really "feeling" and having to acknowledge what's really
going on for me. In this case that 8 women, who you've established a
mutual bond of love and integrity with, let you feel that you weren't
important enough to warrant the kind of phone call you would have
hoped for. And for them, perhaps, that THEY were not counting
themselves as important enough to be actually missed!
And how false that is. We hold ourselves in such low regard. We
don't see... I often don't see my own value and impact as an
individual even to the people I love and that love me most. We are
each vital because there is no US without each individual stepping up
to the circle.
Stay connected with how you are feeling. Communicate the truth of
your feelings with love. We are all struggling to create the best life
we can...and struggling to even believe in ourselves that we can do
it; that we're worthy of it -often unaware that anyone would even
notice if we didn't.
Much love to Kxxxx, Cxxxx, Lxxxx, Axx, Lxx, Cxxxx, Mxxxxx,
Kxxxxxxxxx, Sxxxx and Jxxxx...and my 100 other sisters standing in
this circle with me.
Txxx
Txxxx Cxxx
Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs,
even though checkered by failure...than to rank with those poor
spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in a
gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat.
Theodore Roosevelt~

On Behalf Of Kxxxxx Sxxxx Sent:
Re: so I'm ready to bang my head on the wall now!

Txxxx,
It has been my experience that the harder you work, the luckier you get!
Mxxxxxx

Txxxx Mxxxx wrote:
Thanks for all of ya'lls loving words it really means alot to me! my
luck has got to be changing! It won't get any worse than this! I found
a four leaf clover in my yard this morning! I'm saying that it is my
money magnet! I guess from the greatest tragedy comes the greatest
ahah! It is really hard to live by the old fashion the women stays
with the kids and the man goes and makes the money! Especially me and
I feel that is what I've been struggling with I mean before I got
pregnant with nxxxxxxx. I worked two jobs and was going to school full
time! I didn't need a man for shit! I was making things happen! Sxxxx
really had to step up his game to keep up with me! Then two
pregnancy's on bed rest! I almost lost axxxx because I was working
double shift at cracker-barrel 8 months Prego...4 days in the hospital
after that episode! So yes I over do it at times! I always said my PLD
song would be "learn to be still"! And now it's raise your kids.....
you'll have time for dreams later :P
Love
Txxxxx
xoxoxo

So I'm ready to bang my head on the wall now!

Txxxxx Mxxxxx wrote:
*bang* *bang* *Bang* *bang* so yes it is not effective but at the
moment feels good! I'm spinning in circles figuring out all that is
going on in my head! It is so hard to be surround by so many people
who live in sacasity and not want to go there yourself... so I've
broken my foot not to long and not been able to work (have to climb
ladders and such for resets)... which I'll admit was probably a
product of my feeling stuckeness! The universe going 'ahah' so you
think you feel stuck 'OK' here’s a broke foot for you! :P damn it. Now
the suncare season is over and I'm looking for something else. I do
have a interview for an office manager position for a dance studio
which definitely helps one of my goals to start dancing again (Once
my foot heals of course) Sxxxx sits on his butt and does nothing....
so not only do I have to deal with my shit I have to deal with his
too. Which when he is in his just sits there frozen in fear I
guess. While I look every direction on how to keep everything together
with 3 kids that need to be fed and clothed and taken care of...
schools starting soon well at least for exxxx anyway. She needs school
supplies and such. And the power is about to get cut off. Hell when I
do get the job I don't even know how I gonna get the kids in
daycare... they don't have daycare assistance like they do out in the
west! And if talking from responsible WTF did I do or think or say to
create this? How do you find the balance with raising kids, your
marriage, yourself, and the thing bigger than yourself! I thought I had
it all figured out! I thought I had come up with the grand plan! A way
to make money for both the family and the vision and still be home to
teach my kids! And maybe it still is. It just hasn't happened yet my
chain is about to snap I don't know how much more I can take before I
have a nervous breakdown
LoveTxxxx xoxoxo

Hey Txxxxx,
First things first...BREATHE, BREATHE, BREATHE....
Ok, Ready...
You are not responsible for Sxxxx's shit! That's his poopie, not
yours. You can encourage him to shift out of it and if he chooses to
remain in it, then he's in it.
Reconnect yourself with what it is that you want. Yes, you're
surrounded by scarcity, AND its how you deal with it that will make
all the difference in the world. For all the scarce thoughts,
challenge yourself to flip it into the positive and create an abundant
thought.
YOU are in charge of your destiny. The Universe is a lot of fun to
play with, and based on my clarity...it really delivers. Maybe the
Universe is telling you, with a broken foot, to take a step back,
recharge, take care of YOURSELF, and slow down a little... instead of
"You want to be stuck, here's a broken foot to help facilitate that"
Remember, you can only give to others what you give to yourself.
This includes to your job, family, husband, and children!
Love ya
Kxxxx S.

Well folks a New team of PSI graduates hit the streets and this is what a couple of them had to say. I like the one where Cxxxxx stood her ground and yet fails to realize that people see the change in her, don’t like it, and when they offer her their opinion what does she do. She made a CHOICE.

In PSI7Team471@yahoogroups.com, Axxx Wxxxxxxxx
wrote:
Hey everyone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I miss you ALL sooo much. So I am taking this class at my college called "close relationships across lifespans" and everything they teach us is the same stuff I learned at 7 about relationships. It is so great, I already know it all! I just thought I'd let you guys know. It's a good reminder that everything they teach at 7 really is based off facts, so if you are having trouble getting someone to Basic tell them they can pay $500 for Basic or $23,000 for college to learn the same stuff!!

Love and miss my psi family,

To: PSI7Team471@...: [PSI7Team471] Had an explosive night!
So I a proud to tell u guys I stood my ground! I staffed this weekend in OC for the basic, which was absolutely amazing! On the way home from inner circle My Best friend called me upset and addressed that she did not like the new me. She said "you need to
get out of your positive little world u r in!" I felt hurt and disappointed. Then thankfully I remembered I had a choice. I told her I choose to live my life that way and she had the choice to do the same. Sadly to say she also said she no longer wanted to be my best
friend. When I got home my Husband told me that he agreed with her......My heart was broken! Then I thought as hard as I worked and as much money as I paid for PSI 7 to come back and buckle down. I told my husband u also have a choice get on the train or leave I am not going to compromise my happiness for someone who does not support my growth. He than told me I love you and I support u! After having had that happen I realized the power of choice...........POWER OF CHOICE! Remember to choose Growth and choose Happiness at all costs!! Cxxxx
>
wow cxxxxxx that is crazy. I totally commend u on the way u r taking it with stride. I luv u and yes ull b busy anyway with ur psi friends and all the activities going on. U will have a bunch of whole new best friends. luv u superstar.

CRABS!!!!!!!!
Don’t let the crabs pull you down with them. Stay strong and stay your ground. All of the crabs are afraid of doing what all of us (I) are doing with our lives. I have been blessed to see all of you transform from the people that you were into the awesome, giving, trusting, trustworthy, high achieving, huggable, cuddly (that’s for you Peter!) leader of leaders that you ARE. Seeing your messages concerning how those around you are pulling you down has strengthened my belief in how we all need to stay connected and support each other. I am blessed with a great support system in Phoenix and am more than happy to give my support to any of you that need it. If you are feeling like you are in need please give me a call…seriously…don’t hesitate! I am here for every last one of you.
With love,
Gxxxxx Gxxxx

More information on PSI. Can anyone tell me what BLP means?? Apparently PSI is laying on the tough sell to take as many classes as fast as possible.


LALS Grads, Attention LS Grads!

-- On Fri, 9/19/08, wrote:
From:
Subject: LALSGrads Attention LS Grads!
To:
Date: Friday, September 19, 2008, 7:02 PM
Vxxxxx::
I am willing to periodically donate 50% of the cost of the basic to a deaf student as long as there is already one deaf student enrolled. This way Fern's efforts are more concentrated. I am also willing to periodically donate $100.00 to Jxxx’s fund that will be named by another.

I am also interested in having a discussion within this yahoo group about making BLP's continuously a success no matter what the current L.A. PLD Team is capable of. Lately, I have noticed that a bigger effort seems to be going to the community service events which are always successful. Those events seem to get a lot of LS grad support as well and for some reason or another they never ever fail! Then what happens while the players are on the PLD home stretch and possibly on some level of overwhelm BLP is added on and from what I have seen lately, more often than not this event produces less than wonderful results. It is viewed as "failing forward" and that is fine as long as the lessons are learned. This is great for the players, though I believe the attendees who are in judgment receive a less than wonderful image of what PSI, the best path for personal growth is all about. Now, if unbeknownst to the PLD Team, LS grads support this event with the same vibration and bring guests to it who are ready to enroll, then the players can say what worked was the support out there and the lessons learned from what did not work can still benefit them, though the city's image is unblemished at the same time.

I am off to Principia on Saturday and I will not be on line at all until my return on the 29th, though I would like to receive some feed back on this topic, now.

Rxxxxx Exxxn

In a message dated 9/19/2008 11:43:45 A.M. Pacific Daylight Time, XXXXX writes:

There is a player on LA PLD Team 26, Jxxx Wxxxxx, who is putting together a fund to help sponsor individuals who want to take the BASIC
and are not able to pay for all of it. Jxxx is looking for donations and particularly at least one person to donate $1000+ who will name the
fund whatever they chose. Please contact Jxxx Wxxxxxx if you are interested: or xxx-xxx-xxxx.

Thank you!

Vxxxxx


Rxxxxx,

Please contact Jxxx for anything relating to the fund! I will forward her what you sent.

I completely agree with you about the BLP. My team had a rough time with the BLP and I'm sure all teams whether large or small could use our support in bringing guests. Team 26's BLP is over although Team 27's is probably coming up at the end of October or beginning of November. I feel that a BLP is often the best way to reach out to someone who is on the fence about taking the basic.

Thank you for your input! See you at Principia!!

Love,
Vxxxxxx

Here is more emails going back and forth. Problems in marriage after their return from PSI7!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Re: [PSI7Team471] Any feedback?
On Mon, 9/22/08, Bxxxx Axxxx
From:
Subject: [PSI7Team471] Any feedback?
To: PSI7Team471@yahoogroups.com

Date: Monday, September 22, 2008, 6:57 PM
Strange I thought. My husband got out of psi7 and since then or I should say since we went to these classes he's been different. Not
in a good way. Example, since basic in July he's went out and turned his phone off about 8-9 times. In the 7 yrs we been together
he did that maybe 2x. He's been very cold towards me where as before he was a lot warmer. He accused me of taking interest in
someone from psi7 no idea where that came from. He said he see how people are so friendly up there and wonder what I was doing??????
How weird is that. It seems a lot of his team mates found someone on the ranch and did not care about the 30 day rule. Not my
problem. I told him our team was serious about our shit and I couldn't say for others but no I was not even thinking of it. I had
a whole lotta my own bs to deal with. So this whole being responsible for yourself thing has been challenging to work with.
However I been totally surprising myself. The angry Bxxxx would have had a divorce by now after I got done doing the pay back.
wow. I don't want to be that way and I realized that by me being mean to him that is what gets him to get into shape. What an eye
opener. So this past weekend he did it again this time for the whole weekend. Which was his first weekend home since he went to
psi7. He had to work for 2 wks in cali before he came home after psi7. I know why we attracted each other in the first place but now
I no longer am willing to go back to my ego. It never did serve me. However, it would have served me in making my husband act
right. Scary. So talk about realization. I will never go back to that, even if it means parting ways. I talked to him like I never
did before after this weekend. I told him that I will not go back to operating from ego, so this is what's in my heart that I was
really hurt and he's been taking this new loving me for granted. Based on results. When he graduated psi7 we established rules for
our marriage which he has broke every one repeatedly even the ones he has made. Still doesn't make it right for me to break them too.
I been going through some major trials especially within my marriage. I told him I choose not to be a taker and will not do
things back to him however I am no ones door mat. So we spoke as we always do and I went to church Wednesday night and he came and met
me there. We saw a counselor Thursday night where he said he realized how much I changed and freaked him out in a sense because
he hasn't made that kind of changes. Pretty interesting. Then I told him I hope for his self that he is sure about what he wants and
is doing it to be a better man not changing because I will walk if he doesn't change. Then it will just keep resurfacing. It has been
a challenging ride for me in my marriage. I It made me realize how empowered I am and thanx for some people from the team reminding of
rule #6. Reminding of how far I have come and to be responsible for me. I found myself picking at him and realized I was doing it just
because I was frustrated with myself. The bottom line is that I just wasn't willing to give him me anymore. The real me. I tried
justifying how he doesn't deserve to know the real me and therefore I'll just talk 2 him from my ego. wow what a trip. I so had to
call of me forward lately to shift constantly all my negative thoughts. In the corner of my eye I could see my whole list of
justifications for why I'm going to get a divorce and never speak to him in a really long time. His family was even adding to my
justification list. I so had to stop and focus and call forth the real me to be responsible and shift this to a positive path for
myself. I know, a long message. Thanks for taking the time to read it. So I have and I have been noticing when I am in resistance a
lot faster now. I thank god for psi it has definitely helped my children as well have a better mother. I know I can do anything
literally. Any feedback? Where do you draw the line between not being a door mat or how can I tell if I'm just taking a back door?
If rules was established and constantly broken by one player? The player breaking it is saying there's nothing wrong with it but they
don't want me to play by the same rules. What is that communicating?

(OK, DOES ANYONE SEE A PATTERN HERE? LOOKS LIKE THE HUSBAND HAS FOUND ANOTHER WOMAN AND IS GETTING READY TO DUMP HIS WIFE BECAUSE SHE HAD COME BACK AS A PSI BITCH.)
Dear Bxxxxx,

What a kind and open heart you have! My advise would be do not give up your positive, giving side - sounds like you are trying to stay on the right path but are experiencing major turbulence! I want to share with you that I just watched the movie that Rob recommended, 'The Secret', then I watched it 4xs over. Some relevant excerpts: The Law of Attraction states if we stay positive and focused on what we want, we are bound to attract it in our lives (and vice verse)... in a relationship it is easy to see/feel the negative things... so try writing down all the things that are going 'right' and all the things you appreciate in your husband - that he has contributed (perhaps ask him to do the same) and share the list every day. Listen openly just as we did in class. Just a thought...

(THEN SHE RECEIVES THE "SUPPORT" FROM HER POD-MATE)

My husband also returned from PSI7 last month and we are working on the fundamentals. (WORKING ON THE FUNDAMENTALS)

It takes effort but "When You Put Your Heart in it", and "Honesty", you may experience some "Precious Pain" and "Lessons Learned" but "If We Hold on Together", you will "Believe <you> Can Fly"... "My Wish" for you is complete love and happiness so "Dive" in, lead with your heart and go after the life you deserve!

Hugs,
Jxxxx



Re: [PSI7Team471] Any feedback?

Hey Bxxxx dont give up! I also have had some troubles with my hubby and am know seeing our marriage therapist again. Remeber old habits dont just disappear cuz u went to 7! it takes 90 days to install new habits. fight on, ur not a quiter! continue the counseling and hopefully the resentment and breaking of rules will stop. only u know what ur relatinship is like so be careful on the feedback cuz we will comment on what was wrote and do not know all that has happened between you both. My rule has always been if there is no physical or mental abuse then there is hope for a future together. I hope in your case its not that. being married is a learning process....so learn what works and toss out what doesn't. I love u and hope that with counseling and alot of love u are able to work things out!!!
(AND ANOTHER ONE; STARTING COUNSELING?????)

THE BEGINNING OF THE END FOR AT LEAST THREE COUPLES THANKS TO PSI SEMINARS.