HAI has 7 levels of workshops with a few couples workshops as well. As no time, in any of the levels, is any instruction given to have sex, have oral sex, or to have intercourse. There is, at least on one occasion, the instruction not to have sex however.
There are no exercises where condoms are handed out prior to the exercise. There are no excercises where condoms are passed out at all.
This is the type of deception which bothers me. The first paragraph tries to imply something which is not reality. It seems that many people in HAI want to create an image which is just not true for some reason. The last paragraph tries to imply something, but the real questions is whether condoms are made available, not whether condoms are passed out. For example, placing a bowl of condoms in the room is not passing them out.
I also must take exception to the claim that there is no instruction given to have sex. While, based on what I have seen, this is technically correct, it is again deceptive. People are encouraged to do what they want and to push things. Also, sexual contact is not prohibited, quite the contrary.
I love the statement that on one occasion people are told to not have sex, as if that applies throughout. To be accurate, that statement occurs in the first workshop and the opposite occurs in the second workshop, with people being told to make love, even if it is just with themself.
Why is it that many people who push HAI that they also try to give a false impression? That is not honest and people will realize this should they take the workshops, but is there a hope that people will be converted so that they will ignore the deception?
I would not say that I said except that I think that it is important to correct the false impression that are given.