RR.com does not and cannot indoctrinate
Date: September 28, 2003 10:36PM
You might liken it to having your best friend "relapse" into alcoholism or drug abuse. Landmark works in a similar fashion on some people. She sounds as though she is in the middle of the indoctrination when emotions are their highest and normal functioning is compromised. Landmark can be very seductive to the weak or uninformed. She will be flooded with positive reinforcements for "adopting" their new ways of thinking, speaking, and acting. They have promised her "unlimited possibilities for an amazing life," which is their way of promising nothing but the weak or uninformed interpret is as meaning whatever their most treasured dreams consist of. These people are super-slick, high-pressure salesmen, selling Landmark garbage psychology, metaphysics, and influence tactics so that they can turn out more salesmen who will follow instructions without question, smile the smile, talk the talk, and dress and look successful to present themselves as examples of the amazing power of Landshark to transform people's lives. (Which they actually do, but of course, not in the way most people would want or expect.)
Unless they make some mistake with her, or say something that causes her to question the whole thing, she is probably lost, for a while anyway. Distance yourself from them as much as you can. Learn more about what you are dealing with. Though Landmark is not a cult, technically, it functions as one and uses the same tactics and manipulation of people's minds that the cults have developed.
If you can't find someone to fill in for her, you might use Landmark's own tactics to get her through the wedding. Remind her of her "agreement." "Agreements" are contracts in Landmark-land. Remind her that her "integrity" is at stake. "Integrity" is a biggie, also, though it only really applies to other Landmark interactions. (She may not have figured this out yet.) You might ask her why she is not "being her word" in regard to her obligation to you. (You can pick up more of the manipulative phrases by listening to her and the other friend.)
Personllay, I would write her off, for a while anyway. Landmark is designed to destroy non-Landmark relationships so the new member has to rely more and more on his or her new Landmark friends. And Landmark recruitment "friends" are so intense and intrusive they will take up all her time and energy. They will also try to convince her that if you are not recruitable or you say negative things about Landmark you are not a friend.