rmeo...Thanks for sharing your experiences at the 'bad' place.
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Next they proceeded with a list of what is natural and unnatural emotions, this is part of the becoming more centered and natural thing they described w/ their ever so popular diagram. They assumed that anything that is bad is unnatural (sadness, anger, ect.) and everything good is natural (happy, joyful, ect.). Now this makes little sense to me as anger and sadness are by no means wrong and by all means natural within human life no matter what your belief system may be. There is no way around it.
I have to share a story about my ex...
One day we went to the beach and he drove my car there. We parked and went for a power walk along the boardwalk. By the time we got back to the car, it was dark out. My alarm was going off and there was a town pick up truck shining it's headlights on the car.
At first I thought that someone tried to break in. When I looked on the windshield...lo and behold... a parking ticket! :evil:
The parking area requires a permit after a certain time.
I got angry and upset (and this where the weirdness started). I wasn't happy that I would have to try and fight the ticket at a questionable part of town where the courts are. I once had to go there and the area and the court process IS a nightmare. I'm sure they do that diliberately.
Anyway, I expressed my feelings about this and he got annoyed with me. He said there was no point of getting upset. He said I was thinking for the future and what happened in the past could not be changed. Why in the NOW would I be choosing to feel upset when I could feel happy. :? He also stated that he would not tolerate my negative feelings and would consider [u:d4535b67e7]not [/u:d4535b67e7] seeing me anymore if this didn't stop. :shock: [/size:d4535b67e7]
I told him this wasn't about him. I don't know what happened but he finally calmed down about this issue. It WAS strange and I couldn't place where this was coming from. :?
He never even expressed that he would help pay for the ticket. He never admitted that it was partly his fault. Of course, blame and guilt are negative feelings (sarcasm) and he doesn't believe in that anymore. :roll:
After reading these websites and hearing about your story first hand, it clears up EVERYTHING. :D