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The book was mostly written for men trying to get child custody or who have been falsely accused of spousal or child abuse. But if you make the necessary gender pronoun substitutions, the advice is just as relevant for women who have lost husbands to bad groups.
The ability to write inspirational books or give inspirational lectures is a different 'skill set' from the bundle of skills needed if one is to function as a qualified mentor or group leader.
Mentoring requires honesty, altruism, and training/wisdom.
Carlos Castaneda was a genius at writing inspirational fiction. Many wonderful people were inspired to start their own authentic spiritual journeys by reading Castaneda's fake anthropology.
As long as he stayed in the role of inspirational writer, Castaneda did fine.
But when he set up as a leader of his own cult, Castaneda was dangerous and harmed the people whom he had recruited into the group. He lacked the maturity, the altruism and the honesty needed to function as a leader and spiritual teacher, and left a trail of damaged lives behind him.
Many have said that it was best to read his books and avoid him in person.
When they say the Devil can quote Scripture to serve his own purposes, they're saying that the Devil can be highly charismatic and inspirational.
But thats not the same as wisdom, honesty and love.
But people constantly equate charisma and inspiration with wisdom, honest and love.
Pray for your husband, but do all you can to build a life for yourself, here and now.
If your husband wakes up and comes home, he will have the pain of knowing he was led to terrible, hurtful things. Thats one thing that makes it so hard for people to leave bad groups; they are afraid to wake up and admit 'Oh, God I have to face what I did to my wife and kids. How can I face them after harming them?'
So that may be what is also keeping your husband away--he's afraid of the pain he would have to feel by waking up and knowing what he did to you.
So you have to take care of your own healing so that if he comes home, you'll have the inner resources to help him grieve for what he did--and feel safe about coming home and facing you, seeing the pain in your eyes.