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Finally, I do have to give her credit for broaching the subject and being up-front about it from the beginning. When she asked if I had heard of Landmark, I replied that I had, explained how, and that I chose not to participate. If I had remembered the term "racket" I would have asked her what hers were, and what she thought mine were.
True, at least she's being honest and open about her agenda, it's not generally the way Landmarkians choose to tackle recruitment, but they might use blackmail in the right circumstances, your situation is a good example. Most of the time, landmarkians just use something I like to call "aggressive invitation." It might go something like this:
Landmark person: "Would you like to go to my Landmark graduation night on Tuesday?"
Target: "Ohhhh, sorry I already have plans on Tuesday night."
Landmark person: "Oh really? What are your plans?"
Target: "Oh my sister is going back to Taiwan on Wednesday, we're throwing her a going away party."
Landmark person: "Is there any way you could possibly move the party to another night, or maybe have the party earlier or later?" (I'm NOT kidding, I myself asked people to change their personal family events to accommodate graduation nights/Landmark introductions, just goes to show how much of a true believer I was :roll:)
Target: "No, I don't think I can change it, I'm going to be really busy. And I'm busy on every other night anyway."
Landmark person: "Are you SURE you can't move anything around? What about next Saturday afternoon? They're going to be having an introduction, you really should go check it out it's really an incredible course I'm telling you."
Basically the objective is to "try to get the person to be unreasonable with their decision (oops! sorry) [u:9fbb20d134]choice[/u:9fbb20d134] to attend an introduction" but it's really just badgering the person until they give in. Badgering people is a HUGE part of Landmark, and as you get further into their courses, you learn to be more and more subtly persuasive so you'll drive less people away. In the beginning with the forum, I scared off so many of my friends away you wouldn't believe it, and when I got out I apologised, and every single one of them said "I'm so glad you're back!" :wink:
I think both the blackmail and the "aggressive invitation" tactics they employ need to go. It's not nice to risk people's personal relationships with friends and family to get numbers. If your girlfriend is going to keep on delivering these ultimatums to people, she's going to keep driving men away, unless she finds someone she can dominate enough to get them in. Count yourself lucky that you're not that person :)
Lightwolf: You're welcome buddy! I thank all the critics around here for speaking the truth and helping me wake up! :wink: