PRODUCTIVE QUESTIONS / COMMENTS
1. ACTIVE LISTENING (REPEAT BACK KEY WORDS)
• “WHAT I’M HEARING IS ...”
2. WHAT’S AT RISK?
3. CLARIFYING
• WHAT DOES THAT MEAN FOR YOU?
• WHAT DOES THAT LOOK LIKE FOR YOU?
I want to be loved. What does that mean to you, “to be loved”?
It means to be held and accepted for who I am. How do you mean, “who you are”?
I mean for my good and bad traits. What do you mean by bad traits?
My addictions. What does an addiction look like to you?
Like when I masturbate. What do you mean by masturbation?
I’m so ashamed (Cries).
4. FOCUSING (GOING FOR SPECIFICS)
• WHO?
• WHAT?
• HOW DO YOU KNOW THAT?
• WHEN?
I’m mad. Who are you mad at?
Dad. What about your dad?
He is crazy. How is he crazy?
He hit me. How / where did he hit you?
With his fist in my mouth. When? How old were you?
I was 6. What was happening before he hit you?
I was just playing (Cries).
5. VALIDATING
I’m scared. You look scared to me.
I do not want to do this. This seems very hard for you.
I’m afraid I’ll start to cry. That’s right. You might cry if you do this.
And I’ll never stop. I’ll bet you could cry forever.
6. PACING / MIRRORING (EXAGGERATE WHERE APPROPRIATE)
I’m really pissed. You’re fucking angry!
Yeah. It’s my goddam wife. That bitch really pisses you off!
Yeah. She’s always telling me what a jerk I am. She’s always ragging on you!
I hate her. You wish she’d just die!
No! I’m so scared she’s gonna leave me.



This stuff just grosses me out! UGH!

Ivy - keep this coming - just keep it in the mankind project thread!

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Ivy - keep this coming - just keep it in the mankind project thread!

Am I in it? Or do I have to do quotes or do you want me to add this to yours?