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The idea about generating a list is a good one. I asked her to do so during one of her more lucid/engaged moments. She balked about not having the time right that moment, so I clarified that she could work on it throughout the week. That was acceptable at first, but as the night wore on, she fell back on her tried and true excuse of above - I should simply accept her word.
Put a twist on the list. Ask her sweetly, if this experience is so damn essential for you to have, then "invite" her to make a list of the benefits that you should expect to receive by attending the Forum. Invite her to "share" the specific things that will change in your life. Enroll her in the possibility of sharing 5 crisp logic based outcomes that this consciousness transformation will bring to you. Just a pitiful 5. Invite her to share also what makes her so clear in her mind that these will happen to you or for you. If she balks, sweetly explain to her that she isn't really committed to enrolling you and her racket it to see the communication fail. Then tell her is she wants to "get complete" on the matter she'll have to let go of her racket and do what it takes to successfully enroll you, and that means writing out a nice declarative punch list of all the goodies. If she won't do that, share with her that she's neither committed to her marriage OR to LEC, and all she really wants to do is run her rackets without taking responsibility for them, but you know she is a much too high integrity being to play such silly games, and you trust she'll have a breakthru soon.