Day 3, Friday, about his spontaneous and red-black

At about 16:00 the doors to the room open with the now famous "Sprach" -ritueel. The question-answer game between trainer and group on the objectives of the Essence organization and purpose of the exercise follows. Further, there are shared successes.

Then the "conflict chart" treated by the trainer. That there and close like this see:
You make an observation about the behavior of another, and you filter it through your own subjective filters. Therefore there is a colored judgment. You then take a position. You think you're right, and you put it on. There arises conflict between you and the other person. If you are the strongest party, put through and beat you the other. For a moment, it gives a good feeling. Then you realize that the relationship is broken, and you feel the loneliness.
If you are the weaker party in a conflict, then you limit your loss, and you leave. Even then broke up, also there is loneliness.
Moral of the story: if you will win or lose in a conflict, ultimately the end result is the same: loneliness. Of course there is a solution. After you have taken a stand, will you listen to each other. And after listening carefully you will come to cooperation. A whole lot better.
That in itself is nothing wrong with this story. But what if in real life you find someone who says she wants to listen, but only his or her own will want to push through? Where 'listening' represents a jump to get your pick of personal attacks and prejudices? Someone any reply from your side as "not listen" can be set aside. There they have not thought about it at the Essence. Indeed, when it comes out so they do it themselves.
This is borne out by a track (as has happened so often).

After a pause following are stories about how you react differently to the same things in the outside world when there are several things about hear. Some numbers:

a story about American death row inmates who could only save themselves by taking in an experiment. Blindfolded and tied they are told that their arm cut off, and they will die after some time. Then, on the arm minced with no more than a block of ice. The convicts would have believed all this, have seen that it was not fake, and all died in about the time it would take to bleed to death (or the story really true ?? Is the stories of Yiftach Sagiv well more often the case, incidentally).
a story about a biology teacher who would have corrected Yiftach Sagiv on the operation of the human ear (without mental filters therefore, a purely physical process within your organs). There would then be flown a jumbo jet, and that woman would have it heard from her explanation because they are so going on in her conviction (the rest of the audience have heard it). Under the skin tone in the story: teachers are often so difficult and stubborn.
If a baby is in the car, and "supposedly" the building is surrounded by barbed wire, dogs, guards etc., is it impossible to get to the car to rescue the baby being a mother? Again as moral of the story: it's all in the filters of the situation.
A story about a friend of Yiftach Sagiv, which came more and more as a scientist, but found out that he's still people continued to arrive at his level he was only so-so. Even when he was a professor, he soon realized that he was not happy about it.
About an employee at an airport after a promotion suddenly in an expensive suit walked up. A few weeks later, when understood and had returned to his ancient garb. Moral: image is not everything, it's about your origins.
As a follow up on a story about how great someone like Mick Jagger. Total Nonconformist, in a very provocative way, not like the rest. And yet insanely rich and successful. Because he himself said Yiftach Sagiv.
After that the boy and girl process. A beautiful lady, asked interim, the group may go down pretty substantially on an imaginary bar. A boy from the group also asked the interim, may be at a distance. He might be surrounded by a bunch of assistants who ensure that he can not move out. Then follows a story of the trainer on how much you like boy that girl wants to make contact, but you feel so shy. The roar assistants than the boy in question to all sorts of doubts, and make sure he does not come out of place ("they may well be a lesbian! ',' She is already married!", That sort of thing). At the end there is the word of the trainer. You do not chase your fears away, but you just take them with you when you step off on her.
Then follows the asshole process. The seats are put to the side in two rows. One half of the group is on the side. The other half has to pass between the two rows, and should not once in the same way from one side to the other foot. In the end they walk back down behind the seats to the starting point, and then "allowed" them again from beginning to end run. Always in a different way so. Hoping, triple jumping, backward, sideways, in single file, you can invent it all, if you do it in a totally different way. The people who stand on the side, should applaud those who are full of enthusiasm and encouragement.
Then it changed. The other half may be run on the craziest possible ways from one to the other end. The half that just run may now applaud.
Musical conclusion: "Always look at the bright side of life 'Monty Python (or something).
Moral of the process: anyone can be original and spontaneous, if you do not fret to have an 'asshole' as being. So you need not care what others think of you.

Then follows the "bead game". Each trainee gets a set of stone from which he or she must try to make a four-sided pyramid (three planes to the top and one bottom surface). At each trainee is an assistant with applause indicating whether the trainee is on the right track. If the trainee something degrades said that assistant: 'Why break something what is good? ". If the trainee too long considering the assistant says: "The universe applauding action, not to think." Does the trainee a wrong step, it says the assistant: "Do you hear me clap?" A trick that is extracted here is that the assistant at a certain initial step toward the solution or applauds, and not in another, equally valid, beginning step. It is a rather complicated issue, so especially for people with less mathematical construction very difficult. The applause and the comments of the assistant also work pretty confusing. It happens that a trainee just find the solution if the assistant is not a moment in his confusing signals. Many trainees otherwise do not find the solution. Musical conclusion: "My way" by Frank Sinatra.
Moral of the process: you pull anything on the comments of others, search your own way to the solution.

The assistant that "assists" requirements must at least once have full-time assisted. It can be an assistant of the permanent team, or an individual process assistant who has ever previously assisted full time. In other processes that requirement is not imposed. There's still a trick to bind people to the Essence. You can do some things only if you are "consecrated" are, already at a certain "" level "is. Whether you get the bead game than itself really is a different story. That is certainly not always so.

After a pause followed by a sharing on the three processes earlier in the evening. People can lose their feelings, and the trainer gives explanation. Then follows a sermon with "The physical universe is your guru." A story is told about 'FRED' and George. FRED would be a little device on airplanes to keep track. FRED indicates the deviation from the course, George corrects, and the plane is in the right place of destination. It is linked to the Essence mantra of "Stop, look, right, take action." There's quite a joke used in the story: FRED would stand for "Fucking ridiculous Electronic Device". Then follows a story in which two beauties together the plane steps to go to a blissful sunny paradise (usually then reverted to the two beauties from the boy-and-girl-process). They have to see to keep their aircraft on course. After a number of course corrections decide zetoch but different planes to go home. They do not come together so nice anymore.

Then follows a visualization. The trainees have to close your eyes. Each trainee must be beach off and go visit his own garbage heap. Then he or she can say goodbye to the rubbish heap, and for what it is. This will also be ended with a song. After a break, a closes eyes dancing (dancing with closed eyes). A sort of disco so. At some point there may be dancing with eyes open.

This is followed by the red and black game.
The trainees are divided into two groups and put in separate rooms, without contact with each other. They need 10 times to make a choice between red or black. The aim of the game is to get as many points as possible. That must go through a very strict procedure: each group chooses a leader from among themselves. Who needs to check every ballot if everyone voted in the group, and every vote must be counted every round. The scoring is such that the temptation to choose those options that make large losses the other group.

Now, it is so that at the time of this process, it is already very late in the night. The explanation is not very structured. Time is short, and often quite a bit of time lost in the group discussions on what is actually intended. The temptation then saving switch is large (as was clear that checked each time must necessarily be if everyone has cast a vote, and that each round must be counted every vote). Voices that do not comply by some assistants as 'judges' performance rejected with a decidedly "no" shake. It follows moreover no explanation. In most cases it out of chaos.

This is followed by a sharing on the game. Then follows an explanation of the trainer, or rather a sermon. It is then explained that the purpose of game was to earn as many points as possible, BUT OR FOR TWO GROUPS TOGETHER. That everyone had obviously missed. Now the rest of the game looks so much like a game that almost everyone is sure to win, and thus play at the expense of the other party. So all wrong! (Although, you had it not better and more precise must explain?). And how often we do not do in everyday life or at work? Playing at the expense of another.
Then a sermon about not following the rules (which were so summarily explained that you can sit waiting for misunderstandings). This is again linked to all occasions in everyday life where we relax rules to our boot: red lights, speeding in a residential area, take a pack of A4 sheets from work etc. If people indicate that they had by what. intention was, then they get to the ears or why they did not put on understanding instead of keeping their mouths in the group. Then follows the historical parallel with all the times that people keep silent while knowing that wrong decisions are taken. In business life, in work, or going even further: from discrimination, oppression and abuse.

People are then sent home. Most of them bales than dire. Themselves, to their own mistakes and limitations. Or because they realize they are trapped by a deliberately opaque instruction designed to put them on the wrong track. Many people sleep badly that night. A night which is already short because they are sent middle of the night to go home, and the next morning are expected as early as 10:00 for the day.

Truly unique, the process is not. Just read the following hyperlink

Funny side effect is that many trainees an overly long time accurately to love all kinds of rules (traffic and so, not mobile phones in the car, that sort of thing).