Hi Nutty,
You are wise to carefully investigate all this.
Mistakes that I'd made:
1) I did not recognize, until too late, how much of his statements were internalized cult-script.
2) I made connections for him. (wrong!)
3) As I'd learned afterwards, the thing to do is slowly ask questions, appear interested and get her to talk w/ you. Then very very gently ask her questions that will cause her to think and question this paradigm. You have to do this very carefully, as if you are too direct, she will become defensive and alientate herself from you.
I think if I'd done things properly, then I could've succeeded w/ my ex-partner. My cult understanding came after an emotionally excrutitating break up... 'smoke damage'.
Even w/o attending the LGAT yourself, you will still be affected from the 2nd hand effects, mixed messages, etc of the devotee. The smoke damage is as definable as a fog, but it is real. Just a word of caution for you.
May be helpful:
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Good luck!
t