Has Anyone Ever Heard of Radiant Life Church in Sacramento
Date: May 18, 2007 05:55PM
The words "Spiritual Parenting" are a form of branding (Branding is the proprietary visual, emotional, rational, and cultural image associated with a company or a product) a particular teaching laid out in the Bible in numerous places throughout. (In other words, the term itself is not found in the Bible, but it is used to identify a series of scriture passages and what they were intented to communicate)
Within RLC, churches in general, businesses, and just about any organization that has any form of authority structure -- often times a teaching or instruction is presented, and subsequently misunderstood by the reciever to mean something different (in philosiphy and/or in practice). Now once the reciever begins to walk in what they believe they were taught, and chaos unfolds, they might communicate that they were taught this. Were they taught something...? yes. Was what they were taught, ultimately acted out in a manner consistant with what was actually taught? not often...many times to a very damaging degree.
Were students of SOMA taught to disown their parents? No
Were they taught to get new ones? No
Students were taught that not everything recieved while growing up was right, or consistant with the kingdom of God. And as adults, they were now the responsible party in regard to their own spiritual health, and ability to please and obey God.
They were also taught that though it is impossible to "re-live" your up-bringing, to undo that which wasn't helpful, that it is possible for them to choose now what they recieve, and from where they recieve it.
I am a first hand wittness to many individuals abusing what they percieved they had learned, and they ended up abusing many undeserving people along the way. I can tell that you (AbandonedbyRLC) are one of them. My children inturpreted this teaching as an easy fix to their already strained relationships with their parents. My "authorities" used it as a means to rape more authority out of those who trusted them by asking for people to recieve from them...oh, maybe never forcing them, but definately creating a "class" system among those they led (i.e. the more authority you give me, the more relationship I give you). Did that abuse go as high a level as elders/pastors? yes, it did. Did even teachers, who misunderstood/manipulated the teaching they had recieved, teach something other than the truth? yes
And it was wrong.
I am also a first hand wittness to the rebuking of elders, pastors, and teachers along with students who twisted this instruction and abused it. Therefore I know it is not endorsed by RLC, nor by Tony.
The four female students, though I am unclear as to exactly what they said to their parents, chose to do something as adults. They may have been wrong in how they did it (they may not have, I don't know), but they did have that choice. One thing I know for a fact is that upon making that decision, they were required, as a rule of living there, to honor their parents and to spend weekly time with them. A neglecting of that was grounds enough to be asked to leave the house.
I personally know three of them and have asked along the way how their relationship with their parents was... each report was progressively better. Many of them "hated, despised, argued, wanted never to be like" their parents before they moved out. Beautifully, their perspectives have changed to desiring a more respectful, loving, and more fulfilling relationship with their parents.
Was it difficult? yes Was it done perfectly all the time? No
On a side note though, the spin you are refering to (controlling parents-hard to let go)...do you find that possibilty completely unfounded?