Religous Cult Destroys Family
Date: July 15, 2004 04:21AM
First, be assured that my prayers are with you. What a nightmare! I don't know if there are any battered women's shelters in this town, but if so, I would highly recommend contacting them. They are experts in this sort of thing. Even if your daughter does not have to stay in the shelter, they provide counseling, can tell her what to do to be less likely to be found, and in some cases can help get her into a witness protection type program. PLUS they're excellent for documenting for purposes of the custody dispute. Second, know that this will end. I escaped an abusive marriage 10 years ago. My ex stalked me until I thought I would go crazy. The police would do nothing, the restraining order was not worth the paper it was written on, I finally was driven by desperation to buy a gun and to let him know that I'd use it if he bothered me again. It stopped immediately. Jerks like this ONLY understand violence. There is no reasoning with them and they don't believe in logic. That is NOT to say that answering violence with violence would work and I'd never, ever recommend that, it is just what worked for me and an illustration that getting rid of these types is not as easy as those who've never been there would think it is. Read the book "How to Stop a Stalker" by Mike Proctor. It could save your daughter's life. This book has been SO helpful for me! Tell your daughter to never use her home address for anything, get a po box, and get one far away from home. Constantly be aware, someone may be following her. Change cars as often as possible, even borrowing from friends, relatives, etc. It makes you harder to follow. Change routes and routines daily. Habit gives the enemy a huge advantage! My prayers are with you and your daughter that this situation will work out to her and the children's benefit. This too shall pass!