I have no personal animus regarding Young Life. And attempting to somehow impugn me personally doesn't change the facts.
You say, "Young Life has no intentions of going behind people's back and telling their kids something that they don't want their kid learning." And that the organization is not "shady."
You then claim, "If a parent doesn't want us working with a child, we will not pursue that child."
But you admit, "You may be right. Maybe we don't send a kid home papers the first time we meet him."
You are talking in circles.
If Young Life functions the way you say it does than a simple written parental notification and consent form would be no problem.
In this way every child's family would be notified and their signed consent on file.
End of problem.
You ask, "Did you ever think that maybe we don't have an agenda? That our hope wouldn't be to tell kids about Jesus..."?
Young Life states on its Web site the following:
Every adolescent will have the opportunity to meet Jesus Christ and follow Him.
Introducing adolescents to Jesus Christ and helping them grow in their faith. We accomplish our mission by ...
* Praying for young people.
* Going where kids are.
* Building personal relationships with them.
* Winning the right to be heard.
* Providing experiences that are fun, adventurous and life-changing.
* Sharing our lives and the Good News of Jesus Christ with adolescents.
* Inviting them to personally respond to this Good News.
* Loving them regardless of their response.
* Nurturing kids so they might grow in their love for Christ and the knowledge of God's Word and become people who can share their faith with others.
* Helping young people develop the skills, assets and attitudes to reach their full God-given potential.
* Encouraging kids to live connected to the Body of Christ by being an active member of a local congregation.
* Working with a team of like-minded individuals -- volunteer leaders, committee members, donors and staff.
* Living according to and communicating the whole Gospel of Jesus Christ.
* Carrying out our mission under the authority of Scripture and relying on the Holy Spirit to empower our ministry.
* Encouraging the welfare and spiritual health of those who do this ministry, that they may minister out of a consistent and growing relationship with Christ and His followers.
* Researching and developing innovative approaches to reaching uncommitted, disinterested kids around the world.
* Reaching adolescents of all social, cultural, economic and ethnic backgrounds throughout the world.
* Working with followers of Christ from a variety of traditions and local churches around the world.
* Welcoming all those whom God calls to our mission -- men and women of all races, staff and volunteers -- who are linked to a common purpose of introducing adolescents to Jesus Christ.
* Observing the highest standards of stewardship of all the resources placed in our trust.
It seems to me that the Young Life's approach is to use "relationships" and "experiences that are fun, adventurous and life-changing" with adolescents to advance a specific religious agenda.
You say, "I know that I want what's best for these kids, not what some guy on the internet says I should do in order to follow his rules."
Again you ignore the point.
It's not up to you to decide what's best for these kids, but rather their parents. And it's their rules, religious choices and sentiments you should respect.
The practical way to do this is implement a mandatory parental notification and permission procedure for all the minor children Young Life works with, which is set into motion upon first contact. In this way you can objectively demonstrate that you really do respect family values.