Ministers in sexual relationship with church members.
Date: November 06, 2012 11:39PM
I would like to bring this up as it is something that has followed me all my life. A dear friend in my youth, later a Baptist minister was caught in a sexual affair with a member of his congregation. I think he left the church -- or was asked to leave. A friend of mine, married to an Assemblies of God minister, found out her husband was being unfaithful to her. The whole thing was swept under the table (I know only through her sister). He was simply moved by the church elders to another congregation in a different part of the country, and I don't think anyone in his congregation knows. This makes me uncomfortable. I think truthfulness can heal a situation better than lies and deception. However, it has its own problems. As a young person I was attending some meetings at the Full Gospel church as they had a dynamic preacher. His congregation was small, and often the pastor took me home in his Volkswagen station wagon. Also present were always his wife, and a young woman with twins of about two years old. Then one night he stood up and said he had something to confess to the congregation. The twins belonging to the young woman were his children. The church disbanded immediately, and I never heard of him again. There were no elders -- he was simply running it with his wife.
I hope this isn't of topic, but I am trying to find out why so much of this happens in Protestant churches where marriage is allowed, and how it should be handled. I am not sure if these issues fall under the banner of the word "cult" except that Paul said, "Let the minister of the congregation be the husband of one wife." Presumably for this very reason. Personally I am open to the idea of divorce and remarriage, and even sex before marriage between two people who love each other and are committed to each other. What upsets me is when people go against what they are proclaiming they believe, and are telling their congregation members is the way they behave. We all make mistakes in life, but I am wanting to understand how sexuality can be handled in a church which proclaims one thing, while the minister practices another...