I waited to see if anyone would comment after KirkbyFurbys’ comments. Good job I didn’t hold my breath! It is clear what we have here, is a church full of sociopaths with no conscience, compassion devoid of empathy. I think the people who left, couldn’t stand the inner pain and turmoil anymore. That was a healthy decision and the beginning of sanity. I know from experience that they haven’t changed, they are still involved in causing division within families, and playing people off against each other and alienation and rejection.
The DSM 5 describes the types of personalities that do not possess empathy. “ In DSM-5, a lack of empathy is a key diagnostic criterion for Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). It is described as a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy, beginning in early adulthood and present in various contexts. Individuals with NPD may also exhibit arrogant behaviours, a sense of entitlement, and a tendency to exploit others, according to the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health | CAMH”. Can you think of anyone that reminds you of? Let’s just say Narcissistic Personality Disorder is quite rare, however there are a plethora of narcissistic traits evident in KCF. Nasty, cruel, arrogant people incapable of humility, empathy and transparency. Shame on you for what you have done! However one thing is for sure in this life, what you have sown, is what you will reap. No amount of “ praise with no agenda meetings “ can save you from that.

I think that is a very succinct analysis of KCF by BrokenbyCheryl, and clearly shows that you possess professional qualifications in the subject matter. As for the covering up of sexual abuse, that is truly appalling. It’s hard to express my feelings on such a subject matter.

It’s now been six months since I spoke here about the abuse and coverup at KCF. In that time, the response has been the same as survivors always faced: silence.

That silence is not neutral. Silence is an action. It protects institutions, not people. It tells survivors, once again, that their pain is inconvenient, and that comfort matters more than truth.

Those who continue to attend or defend a church that refuses accountability are not bystanders. They are complicit.

The abuse happened. The coverup happened. Survivors are still waiting for honesty, for acknowledgement, for change.

This matters.

As Judith Herman wrote:

“In order to escape accountability for his crimes, the perpetrator does everything in his power to promote forgetting. If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the credibility of his victim. If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries to make sure no one listens.”

Going to be honest here, these Kirkby Furby posts have really annoyed me. I only check back here probably yearly at this point. You've stated there was sexual abuse, every person who has been on the post since seems to know nothing about it (I've never heard anything about it myself and I grew up in KCF). Because people haven't blindly trusted or jped on to a post by an anonymous person on the Internet, crying out for blood over abuse that we've not heard of and have no knowledge of we are being made out to be complicit. It's actually disgusting.

If there was abuse then clearly that is something that needs to be looked into properly with the relevant services (police) but you can not try to blame people or act like they are part of some big cover up for something they have not been aware of or because they haven't kicked up a stink about something they don't know to be true.

I genuinely hope you get the help you need, and that justice is served for any crimes of that nature.

It’s not necessary, nor is it relevant that you believe me. What matters is that we agree that children should be protected. That only happens with accountability, transparency, and care.

The rest: acknowledgment, apology, and reconciliation, is between the fellowship and those who were harmed. If that doesn’t include you, there’s no need for you to insert yourself.

I’ve said what I came here to say. The truth stands whether it’s comfortable or not.