Hi Misstyk,
I guess a question to ask is why you wish to get from Tibetan Buddhist Teachings(by the way from looking at other types of Buddhisms online there appear to use similar psychological traps), what are you looking to get out of them?
Putting yourself in that environment likely could cause some change.
Do web searches first and I guess maybe call local anti-cult groups to check out the centre first.
The Guru Papers Book I'm pretty sure see Buddhism as a cult, not in the form of Manson etc, but very subtle.
Remember these people have been studying the mind for 2,500years and have perfected how to manipulate them to there own agenda.
Is what you want to achieve what they want to achieve.
When I'd would go there definitely don't share your life with them, people take Bodhisattva Vows to lead you to Nirvana etc, this may involved trying to get you to spend more time with the Geshe or other Sangha.
Once they know your feelings and what influences you then they can go to work on changing you if they wish.
Putting meaning to the teaching that will maybe have you fall in love with them.
When you arrive and see all the smiling faces especially the teachers it is done to make you feel loved and part of a family, for the Geshe, like an older loving brother.
If you look at the photos of the Dalai Lama and other teachers or monks of other religions you will see photos of gentle smiling faces that make you smile to look at them, its what all religions do.
Thats why they call Catholic Monks and Nuns Brother and Sister, it is to stir that family connection.
And if you have a bad family up bringing this will feel so lovely too you, remember it is done for a reason, to make you feel good, but they won't do it forever once your hooked.
Most of the people I see hanging out at Buddhist Centres are quite often depressed from trying to become selfless and a little nuts, who wouldn't be, humans beings are social creatures it is natural to human to be at least a little self centred, there goal is to be totally selfless, now in the wrong hands if your tried this you can be extremely vulnerable to a predator, who could honestly believe he is doing the best for you.
I'll post some more, just a little at a time as from my experience of abuse, what happens to the mind if I get too deep or too much into taking about it, I can get disorientated, post traumatic stress gets triggered and I can even dissociate and or have panic attacks, I nearly lost myself.
I hope what happened to me should make you wary enough of how you tread.
I'd highly recommend to read Dangerous Persuaders by Sam Amways, go to her website its free/donation to download and is a short read, I was mortified how what she describes quite simply the same what happened to me.
She didn't mention Buddhism, but I tell you the techniques are the same.
Read this first and sooner the better it is a short book.
In my opinion if you do come under the influence of a bad experience in Buddhism it is even harder to get out of because everyone outside will say what are you saying Buddhism is so nice a Buddhist monk wouldn't do that to you, there must be something wrong with you.
Sam Amway describes how the prayers, mantras and teachings change your mind scientifically and easily.
To understand how religion works and how they will try to influence you.
Try this link too of why we believe in gods
[
richarddawkins.net]
It takes about an hour, but sometimes it is easier to watch than read.
It has an excellent explanation.
You can contact the writers of the Guru Papers and they will talk to you about your concerns, an hour costs $100 and you can talk to them on skype.
I found them very helpful.
Good luck Misstyk and I will post some more of how I was trapped later.
I didn't intend to work with a monk one on one, I was subtly seduced into it.
I've been studying them online and as time goes on the traps and influences arise in my mind of what they did to me.
Good links Stoic and thanks for your kind words.
Cheers ;o)