Re: "Inner bonding" with Margaret Paul
Date: February 25, 2024 10:08PM
Sadly, I would have to agree that Inner Bonding has cult elements. I'm not an expert in cults, so I will try to choose my words carefully here. I've been practicing Inner Bonding for over a decade, but my interactions with Margaret Paul have (thankfully) been limited because I learned the six step process from someone else, who is educated and experienced in supporting people in ethical ways (MSW, LCSW).
I even joined the IBFTP (Inner Bonding Facilitator Training Program) but I have now exited of my own volition about four months in, having learned about how many of Margaret Paul's direct clients have been harmed by how she is nowadays distorting her own teaching, and exerting spiritual authority over them in ways that are manipulative and abusive. The leadership of the organization covers up and minimizes the harm that is being done. Ms. Paul is not held to account. She has only been given "feedback" many, many times that usually she refuses to consider, and instead accuses the person raising concerns that they are "in their Wounded Self".
I may post more on this, but for now just wanted to affirm that, as someone who has benefitted greatly from the process itself, I'm sad to say that the organization is not healthy. Margaret Paul also promotes other extremely dubious practitioners of various "modalities" that are pseudoscientific and scammy in nature through her cross-marketing email list and live events, some of which you can find on YouTube.
Inner Bonding tends to attract people who have tried other modalities and haven't managed to feel healed/well psychologically or emotionally. Lots of people with early childhood abuse or trauma, many of whom had parents with narcissistic or even borderline tendencies or diagnoses (as did Margaret Paul's own parent.) In other words, a highly vulnerable cohort of people. Ms. Paul is essentially practicing psychotherapy without maintaining her therapeutic license or continuing education. She is known as Dr. Paul by her followers, Yes, she does have a Ph.D. but imho this is done primarily to lend credibility to her work while she flatly states on her website and in interviews that "psychotherapy doesn't work". (see also: Nicole LePera). With no accountability to an ethics board or state licensure board, those who enter therapeutic relationship with Ms. Paul are at risk.
Edited 3 time(s). Last edit at 02/25/2024 10:12PM by rubyinparadise.