I have to disagree with this point.
It reeks of DENIAL and rationalization to me.
This business of "no penalty" is absurd. People always penalize eachother, one way or another, even if its unconsciously.
We all have these Dominant/Submissive tendencies in us.
My guess is that when the "acting out" becomes extreme and life damaging, that is when there is cause for real concern.
A little sexual "drama" is one thing, but an all consuming "lifestyle of BDSM" is something else.
Of course people are going to do what they want to do.
My opinion is that people should carefully evaluate if what they are doing MIGHT be harmful.
And evaluate if some of the "sex-positive" propaganda is accurate, or a form of persuasion.
Thought Control, Cultish relationships, etc., are very tricky things.
Even without BDSM relationships can get "obsessive" and go off the rails.
Coz
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Originally posted by amy dante
However, the submissive does have a loud voice in those relationships and always has the right to refuse with no penalty by saying the safeword.