This article is painful and infuriating to read because it demonstrates that evil is, all too often, highly intelligent.

But - we can choose to educate ourselves. Many thanks to the good people who bore witness and helped write this article.

Note: adults can be targeted for abuse using these same methods.

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The Child Predator’s Playbook: What Muslim Parents Must Know
By Danish Qasim | December 15, 2024

Note: The article cited above focuses on children at risk of being selected for abuse. An incarcerated perpetrator described the signs indicating that a child is exploitable - and therefore likely to be targeted:

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“(I look for) a quiet, hunted, hurt look. Have you ever seen somebody, and you’re shooting at them or something, they get kind of a hunted, wild-eyed look.

"Well, kids look like that, only it’s inside, it’s kind of like stuck hurt.

"Those kinds of kids, generally, also, are really dependent on other people and that makes them prime target for an adult that’s going to be friends with them, take them places, and do things with them.”

Friends, we may emit that same 'stuck hurt' vibe even after we have reached adulthood. Years back, a policeman who was interviewed said that muggers usually go after people whose posture lacks confidence and who seem unaware of their surroundings. We may look this way due to past trauma, or if passing through a time in life when suffering confusing and hardship due to a life change.


One may be an adult in calendar years yet be personally vulnerable to abuse unless you gain awareness of your situation.

Am sorry to report that some abusers with pedo tendencies are clever. They take care to avoid preying on minors. Instead they satisfy themselves by targeting those who are wounded children in adult bodies.

Many who are adult in calendar years carry unhealed childhood trauma and or have fragile boundaries due to being trained to be a surrogate partner to distraught parents.

One can become socially sophisticated, intellectually brilliant and economically successful as an adult, yet remain a scared child inside -- and completely unaware of this.

Predators who specialize in targeting "adult children" are the ones who can keep them trapped for years, even decades, whether in a poisonous marriage or as long term disciples in high control guru/master teacher groups.

Preying on adult children has two advantages to an astute predator:


* Being a guru, master teacher, Sufi sheikh to adult children brings social prestige

* Abuse of adults is less dangerous from a legal standpoint than preying on children

* Adult children, unlike minors, can provide large sums of money and rapidly enrich the predator.

The predator does not only seduce the targeted child - he or she also beguiles, seduces, grooms parents (if the target is a child) or if you are an adult, charms your friends -- and will take care to charm the school or church or group

Corboy dares to state that the whole spiritual 'crazy wisdom' approach popularized by Chogyam Trungpa, Gurdjieff, Lee Lozowick, etc was tragically successful in empowering abusers and charlatans.

I've decided crazy wisdom is a contradiction in terms. The chronically unpredictable anxious environment generated by 'crazy wisdom' teachers merely replicates the traumatic environment too many of us grew up in, does not support student autonomy and worst of all triggers dissociative states that masquerade as healing.

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Creating an eccentric or quirky persona

When we already have an unfavorable view of someone we detect red flags. When we are suspicious or dislike someone, flaws are magnified. But when we are captivated by them or love them, flaws become cute quirks or silly habits. Part of a predator’s grooming of the community is to make his red flags seem like quirks. This is why only in hindsight people will find ‘obvious’ red flags.

Calling himself ‘the touchy-feely type,’ or ‘a kid at heart’ will allow the predator to regularly touch the child, and play games involving touch, all aimed to desensitize the child to touch as well as to persuade other adults such behavior is excusable. Inappropriate touch will be mixed with appropriate touch, with the fact that there is just too much overall touch going unnoticed on account of his ‘quirk.’