I'm so upset, deeply concerned and profoundly shocked and didn't know where else to notify people about this. The ASI, which I joined several years ago, calls for ethical integrity among spiritual teachers, a noble cause, but it turns out that rather than embodying the ethical standards they advocate for, their director (also a co-founder) and several on the board of advisors/staff appear to lack that integrity themselves, as a great deal of their conduct/teachings violate, even in extreme ways, their own stated values/precepts of ASI's code of conduct, which members are required to pledge a commitment to. Disturbingly, the organization claims to be in service of protecting spiritual seekers from spiritual abuse/being victimized by unethical teaching conduct, these individuals appear to be the very type of teachers their organization claims to serve to protect!
A very dark side of the organization came to light, after examining numerous transcripts of interactions between Jac O'Keefe (ASI director and spiritual teacher) and her students/followers at her satsangs/retreats revealed to me an extremely disturbing consistent pattern of profoundly unethical and frighteningly dangerous, even abusive behavior/communication that ranges from irresponsible to what I believe most would agree is beyond the pale - including everything from pressuring people to engage in sexual practices, violence, disparagement/belittlement/shaming, abusive, violent language, radical gaslighting, implanting traumatic memories, overall abusing authoritative influence to pressure people to do what she says is best for them in private, personal matters, and much more. I can't fathom how she reconciles this with her position at ASI, and how the other co-founders/staff members could possibly not have known about this, and if they did, justified it!!
Beyond making members and prospective members aware of this, it would weigh heavy on my conscience if I didn't report this somewhere, as its' clear in my view that spiritual seekers turning to her for support are at risk of danger, and in line with ASI's mission, she/they must be held accountable for this and hopefully new people can take over who align their conduct with their own stated mission.
The disturbing revelations about Jac include more than the fact that her radical nondual teachings (though she critiques nonduality at times) seemingly mixed with ACIM, are based on the total, un-nuanced, denial of the self/individual and of reality/existence itself in a way that exceeds anything I've personally seen before in the radical nondual scene. Now the ASI invites people to submit complaints about being abused/treated unethically by teachers - given that she/her teachings totally deny the reality that anything is even ever happening, and that victimhood, blame, harm, attack are stories made up by a non-existent self, how on earth would the victims be taken seriously?? After all, her repeated advice to trauma victims includes realizing that it never even happened. YT Video: [www.youtube.com
Or, as you'll see later, that they can learn to enjoy everything including violence.
Beyond these dangerously disassociatve and de-realizing ideologies/teachings, many of you will likely find her egregious, bizarre behavior in interactions with the extremely vulnerable people coming to her for help as utterly outrageous and even chilling as I have. Those familiar with the dark side of Byron Katie, will likely see frightening similarities.
After seeing the "it never happened" video, I got curious and browsed more videos, recent facebook posts, and several 30-page transcripts of her interactions with participants at her satsang/retreats, that including so many shocking things forming a repeated pattern of outrageously unethical and dangerous behavior.
There's too many examples to count, but I made this google doc with about 20 examples showing the disturbing pattern I'm talking about
GOOGLE DOC WITH FULL QUOTES, Links, etc. bit.ly/3P7UED1
These are publicly available on Jac O'Keefes' website under the section "Free Teachings" - "Event Transcriptions" - [bit.ly
Note that all of these interactions occurred in front of a live satsang audience, with extremely vulnerable individuals in various states of crisis, trauma, etc.
?? Asking unprompted invasive sexual questions to audience members including whether they masturbate and enjoy watching pornography.
?? Pressuring attendees to engage in specific sexual acts like masturbation, watching pornography, oral sex, including instances where the person said they were uncomfortable.
?? Pressures a man who is worried about violent urges to engage in a physical fight with someone, and not to worry because reality is just a movie game.
?? Doggedly pressures man to beat up a tree during the retreat, even after he clearly doesn't want to, then shames him in front of the audience for "being avoidant," while the audience ensures him it's okay to just say no.
(Another example of her abusing her authoritative influence to pressure people into doing (often dangerous) things they don't want to, using shame and manipulation to convince them it will be healing for them them/the solution for the issue they're seeking support for.)
?? Repeatedly telling a participant that their perspective is "bullshit"
?? Uses violent metaphors/language to describe what she wants to do to a participant (for his benefit) including, "hacking away at him," "performing surgery on him" and aggressively pressures him to "stop resisting" her.
?? Belittling people constantly for being crazy for simply thinking they are real. This is one of her core main teachings repeated incessantly to people.
?? Byron Katie-esque Holocaust Comment:
Claiming that if the Jews in the Holocaust had been able to enjoy everything no matter how bad it seems, like her, they wouldn't have suffered - they suffered because they were identified with their bodies, made a story out of what was happening.
?? Tells someone with borderline personality disorder that she wants to see him sent into an ungrounded state that severs their connection to themselves and the world.
?? Pressures a man to leave his wife, another example of forcefully trying to make extremely life-altering decisions for vulnerable, confused people.
?? Claims that you'll realize that even "humanitarian values" are "bullshit" from the type of consciousness she is teaching
?? Tells a woman who has severe childhood trauma around speaking and verbal expression, and is suffering from feeling like she can’t be heard by others, that we actually don’t need to be heard by others, and spiritualizes her inability to articulate her feelings as "a blessing" on this awakening path.
?? Denies that the event she is hosting isn’t actually happening, and that if they think it is, their minds are lying to them. One of so many examples of this kind of overt gaslighting, tied to what seems to be one of her core teachings - radical de-realization - to see that nothing is ever really happening, taken to the extreme.
?? Another overt denial of anything ever being problematic, harmful, or wrong, outside of the stories we tell ourselves. This prevents people from even discerning when they are being victimized by unethical teaching behavior that ASI claims to support people with.
?? Telling people that all of their thoughts are "garbage"- more denigrating, shaming, abusiveness
?? An interaction in which a woman experiences disruptive forms of memory loss from her teachings and Jac normalizes/spiritualizes it and assures her that having memory is not very important.
?? Tells woman who describes becoming passively suicidal from the shift her teachings have led to that she is to blame for the personal/familial issues she is struggling with. (More examples of extreme victim-blaming/shaming, total lack of empathy and safety concern for those sharing suffering from dangerous side effects of "awakening")
?? Encourages man burdened by care-taking his mother to beat up a tree while thinking about "chopping her head off," and plants memories of being neglected by her.
PLEASE REFER TO THE GOOGLE DOC FOR THE QUOTES/TRANSCRIPT EXCERPTS, LINKS TO EVERYTHING DESCRIBED HERE. bit.ly/3P7UED1
Precepts from ASI Code of Ethics Most Clearly Violated:
1.Holding ourselves to the highest standards of ethics, right behavior, and professional competency, as commonly recognized by our peers.
2. "Performing our roles as teachers in a caring and compassionate manner, in both one-to-one interactions and groups."
3. "Acknowledging that, regardless of our spiritual attainment, we are human beings with human personalities, limitations, drives, and needs."
Jac: "Blessings on all of us, who are pretending to be human."
4. "Fostering autonomy, empowerment, self-sufficiency, and emotional maturity in our students."
5. "Treating students’ questions, concerns, doubts, and experiences with respect, and never trivializing or dismissing their enquiries."
8. "Refraining from giving counsel in matters outside of our areas of training and expertise."
18. "Being particularly mindful of sexual boundaries with students—and honoring them at all times."
19. "Cultivating and practicing honesty, integrity, compassion, humility, and empathy."
Many concerning youtube videos
Recent facebook posts...SEE GOOGLE DOC for screenshots bit.ly/3P7UED1
Regardless of whether you believe what she is saying, radically denying that anything, which includes abuse and harm is ever actually happening, is incompatible with being the director of an org that claims to support potential victims of unethical teaching behavior.
Advisory board members + peer supporter
Advisory board members Ray Bratcher and David Beavers' publicly disseminated teachings, derived from ACIM (A Course in Miracles) extremely victim-blaming, gaslighting, and radically denying such a thing as victimhood being more than a cognitive distortion/story of a non-existent ego, including the reality of attack and harm.
Ray Bratcher promotes Breatharianism online, including what he calls a "Food-Free Diet," (One of his videos - "I haven't eaten in 17 days") dangerous practices that have been widely warned about as severely compromising health and even being deadly.
“If you wake up to your unreality, then you can live on prana energy." - Ray
One of the peer support specialists and resource creator is a leading member of an organization of Sai Baba devotees. a guru against whom there have been so many accounts of sexual abuse that the UK parliament decided that families visitng his ashram be warned of the risk of danger to their boys.
What, if anything, do you suggest I do further? Would you send this to the ASI/submit it through the complaint submission form? Just let it be? I'm really upset about this, any advice very appreciated!
Edited 2 time(s). Last edit at 06/14/2023 03:38AM by Soulfly1080.