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... I do feel a bit uncomfortable with the way apollo inserts the children of god thing after Dave's name, not cause i was close to him or anything, but cause they are notorious for sex abuse stuff and it makes me a bit uncomfortable that people may be associating that behaviour with me too as an exmember. I hope you don't take that personally, though, apollo.
I definitely never was into anything like children of god stuff and I never witnessed or was taught to practice the kind of stuff they did. I just want that to be clear cause I don't like the idea of people thinking of me or other exmembers as some kind of sex wierdos just because we were in the jc's and when someone says somehting about the leader of something I think they automatically think the same thing about the followers. I think that is waht jesus meant when he said that if people called him names then they would call him followers names too.
hi falling_leaves,
and good to hear from you : I hope you are travelling reasonably well just now, and thanks for making this point. Just wanting to say that while I don't share that feeling of discomfort caused by Apollo's repeated use of the Children of God tag in conjunction with Dave's name, I certainly do take your point about it. I expect it's meant to jump out as a warning to new readers, (and of course to annoy Dave), but for me it's just a wee bit like the dull scraping sound of a blunt knife, or even a title: it actually loses it's edge with over-use.
Your words resonate very strongly with me however, reminding me of the discomfort my son experienced when I thought it OK to try to dull the pain of having been abandoned, by publicly mocking Dave and all that I saw the JCs as standing for. I imagined that my silly jokes could shine the light of reason and truth on Dave, and never imagined they could have hurt the person I loved: that he would feel hurt
for Dave, as if he had somehow become one with him.
In fact, in the long term those silly jokes probly did more good than harm, but in the short term, it really did seem like a big mistake, and I very much regretted that.
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Anyway I don't tink I have the right to ask apollo to change the things he says but I think it could help to make others more comfortable if they didn't get the idea that people were looking at them like sex weirdos.
I don't think anything already posted here can be changed/edited after even quite a short time, but you certainly do have the right to ask anyone posting here to respect your sensitivities in how they write, and hopefully reason will prevail :).
Hey yes, Dave certainly is something of a super-analyst, ain't he? No doubt he will enjoy seeing how meticulously his forum stats are being noted here these days, and wishing this level of interest had been shown before the lockdown/turnaround situation.
Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 12/08/2010 08:57PM by cait.