Sile:
"'Cult' is a loaded word"?
You seem to be an apologist in this statement attempting to dismiss the label you began this thread with regarding the Seventh Day Adventist Church.
The single most salient single feature of destructive cults is that they are personality-driven by a charismatic authoritarian who has no meaningful accountability.
This may have been true for the Adventists historically, but it is not true today.
Ellen White and Miller are dead.
And Adventists now have a democratic church government.
You appear to have an "emotional definition" of the word based upon your feelings and family experience.
See [
www.culteducation.com]
Lifton defined a cult as having the following three characteristics:
1. A charismatic leader, who increasingly becomes an object of worship as the general principles that may have originally sustained the group lose power.
2. A process [is in use] call[ed] coercive persuasion or thought reform.
3. Economic, sexual, and other exploitation of group members by the leader and the ruling coterie.
This is a simple definition based upon the structure and behavior of the group, not its beliefs. And it is neither "loaded" nor "emotional".
The Seventh Day Adventist Church does not fit this definition, as repeatedly pointed out on this thread.
You seem to have hit a dead end in your analysis. Perhaps you should move on.